By Jade Baca-Slater
Re-Wiring our Brain
Sometimes it is what we choose to focus on that determines our mood and how we see our day as a good day or bad day. You literally have to train our brain to go against our nature.
Our nature is to focus on the bad things in our lives. I am not sure why that may be. Someone can give me 5 compliments, and it is hard for me to accept them. They can turn around and give me 1 negative comment, and I will remember it for the rest of the day. Why is that? Perhaps we can learn to focus on the compliments and say ” thank you” and smile.
When We are at Work
The boss could say “you did a great job, handling that stressful situation yesterday.” and “thank you for coming in early when I needed you”. However I will need the reports on my desk by morning.
Just like that, you forgot about the compliments that were just given. It wasn’t a negative conversation, just not something we wanna hear, am I right? Just say you’re welcome. No one said it would be easy, I myself struggle with this as well. When you are good at your job, it is easy to feel like you are being taken for granted.
Starts at Home
When we choose to focus on the positive things in our life the day seems to be easier to get through. One small positive thought can set the whole tone for the day. I try to be soft in nature in the morning. Say good morning to your family. Try not to get angry in the mornings over the little things.
That being said, sometimes situations happen that are out of our control sometimes. It might be tripping over the cat multiple times as you try to get ready for work, or maybe it is your little one fighting with you over every little thing that gets your blood pressure to rise.
When my youngest child was little, she would fight with me almost every day with picking out an outfit. The reason was she has texture issues ( if you know, you know). I found out that waking up 20 min earlier than usual gave her time to have that possible meltdown. When I did this, the morning routine went smoother, and we were all less stressed.
I was focused on giving her extra time for a possible meltdown which gave me more of a calm feeling in the mornings.
Thinking outside the Box
I could have yelled and screamed, but the end result would have been both of us getting stressed. Taking the time to think outside the box and a little trial and error you can find a solution to having a better moring. Which sets the tone for the whole day.
Focusing on anything positive will help your day. Positive thinking breeds positive actions. Because if you don’t focus on the good in your life, you will only see the bad.
I really hope you find this encouraging and uplifting because that’s what I am trying to do here. Encourage anyone who reads this post. Or if this post just brings a smile to your face, then I have done something right. Until we meet again, have a blessed day.
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