It is Okay, Not to be Okay

We Deserve to be Heard

We’re somehow led to believe that our problems are like that embarrassing family photo—better off hidden away while we plaster on a smile and pretend everything is just peachy. It’s as if our lives are too messy for some people to handle, like trying to explain TikTok to your grandma. We should absolutely be able to share our woes and get the support we need to dodge the emotional tidal wave that’s about to sweep us away. Seriously, we deserve a lifebuoy when we’re flailing around! But instead, we get those cheerful “You okay?” greetings that are basically just an invitation to gossip, leaving us feeling a bit like a reality show contestant—everyone wants the juicy details, but no one wants to help.

Help the future you

Well, I wanna say it’s ok to not be ok. It’s ok to cry and have that emotional meltdown 😢. Believe it or not, when you have a good cry, you can then deal with the problem in front of you more clearly. When you cry, you’re not just making your face red and eyes puffy. You are releasing the hurt you feel and the pain you feel. It may not be better after one cry session you might have to have multiple of them. But each time you have a good cry, the cry is not as deep, or the duration isn’t as long as the one before. You owe it to your future self to get the help you need. Only you know what that looks like. It could be as simple as a talk session with a friend over coffee or perhaps more complex. You need to talk about a session with a licensed therapist.

It is OK, To Ask for Help

Now I’m not saying you have to be overly sensitive and cry over every little thing that goes wrong. I’m talking about those breakups and the bad news that you weren’t intending on hearing. Or the possible childhood abuse effects on our life, like anxiety, angered easily or perhaps insecurity.  It’s easier to be in denial than admit your hurt.  

I know so many people in my own personal life hide how things affect them. Like they have things under control when you know they are a ticking emotional time bomb. But we need to get the help we deserve when we don’t know how to handle emotions on our own. Not everyone knows how to handle what they are feeling. It ok to ask for help to get on the right path to helping you feel better.

Who wrote the book if you have an emotional moment, your weak? Why are we listening when it clearly doesn’t help. I think it’s just the opposite. You are strong enough to show these emotions to let yourself feel the emotions and feel hurt.If you keep it inside, you will eventually explode, and that can be dangerous, just like an actual explosion.

Be Strong

Do you know how strong you actually are to be so vulnerable to show emotions. We are taught to hide it because people have mean comments  when they see someone cry or however you choose to release the hurt. But, if more parents taught their kids what to do during a meltdown and how to handle negative emotions. America might not hear about school shootings because our kids would not suffer in silence they would learn to deal with whats going on in a positive manner.

I know what I’m asking isn’t going to be easy. There are so many ways to deal with situations, whether it’s a break up, death, abuse, or bulling just to name a few strong situations that have strong emotions tied to them that some of us have to deal with. we can break the cycle with our own kids and teach them to handle emotions and that it’s normal to deal with what they are feeling.

How to deal

There are many ways to deal with our problems that happen in life, that leads to strong emotional build up..  Talk to someone  about it. Even if that person has no answers, just speaking out loud what’s going on with you can help. if you’re not the talking type, write it in a journal so you can look back and see how far you come. You can also scream in the woods. Also, going on a run is another way to deal with situations.  I know I said it’s ok to not be ok. I meant that you go ahead and have that good cry.

A good cry will help more than you realize, then  comes the road to help yourself heal so you can become more focused on a better future. If  this sounds like something you’re going through, I want you to know pain doesn’t last forever. And you’re not alone. There is light at the end of the tunnel, which can lead to a beautiful place.

Buried

I’m a survivor of child abuse, and guess what? I spent years playing hide-and-seek with my pain. Spoiler alert: it turns out my emotional baggage gave me a few mental scars as souvenirs! They sneak into my future choices like an unwanted party crasher. I’m sharing this post because I’ve learned firsthand that ignoring past or present emotions can turn you into a real-life piñata—just waiting to be whacked! It’s totally okay to have a good ol’ emotional cry, like a toddler who just saw their ice cream fall. Just make sure you don’t set up camp in “poor me” land; you’ll find yourself buried under a pile of self-pity, which is less fun than it sounds. Trust me, it’s like trying to navigate a bumper car track on your way to healing—it only leads to more crashes! Your future self is out there, giving you a thumbs-up for taking time to fix those inner boo-boos. So, grant yourself a little emotional rehab—after all, you deserve to feel fantastic!

The Ending

I hoped I helped someone who reads this post. I know this post is heavy in topic, but it needed to be said. This is not a topic I  take lightly. I want to encourage you to face what’s hurting you. Whether it has been  a week or 20 years.  If you made it this far, I think you can agree that you need to make a change so you can move on from whatever hurt you’re dealing with.

Thank you for reading this. I couldn’t have a blog without an audience. Without you, I would be just talking to myself, and that doesn’t look mentally stable. (Punt intented) Until we meet again, have a blessed day, and God bless

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